Why??? Part - 2

Here I come with my Part 2 of Why???

"So, why do you work from 9 to 9???? After marriage if a girl works from 9 to 9 then who will take care of the family, there will be no meaning left in getting married... Will you change your job and may be look for a job where you can work from 9 to 5 only???" This was a question posted by a real sweet father of a real shy boy.

When a girl has studied engineering for 4 years, struggled as much as a boy does to get good marks and a good job, why is the girl restricted to work only 9 to 5 or take her job lightly just because she has to manage family!!! Does the boy who has all the freedom to work late night, not have the responsibility of managing the family??? If the answer to this question is No, then I think parents do the right thing of mourning when a girl is born as she is still nothing more than a bonded labour.

Yes, I know bonded labour is a difficult word but that's how 90% of girl’s lives turn into after marriage. If you think the number 90% is too high then I think you just forgot to count the people who give the word "Bonded labour" a respectful name called "responsibility".

1. How many women till now have come back from work, sat in front of a TV with a hush while husband gets into the kitchen and prepares dinner???
2. How many men do accept to relocate when their wife gets a new job in a different location with higher salary???
3. How many women are asked to relocate when their husband gets a new job in a different location, just keep aside the salary??
4. How many men think about their in-laws and realize that along with their parents even their in-laws get older and need someone to take care of them???

Answers:

1. None, All he can say is, "its Okie sweetie ...you can make just one curry instead of two tonight, I know you are tired". And if he adds a topping of "I love you" then I would simply say that you have married the most disgusting person on the face of this earth. I still wonder why is the cooking department given to ladies in the family...while the most renowned chef's on this earth are all men??? 
2. None, Even if the girl's salary is going to become much more than the husband’s salary... Never will it be possible. And the lamest excuse you will get is "Sweetheart, we are already settled here, we should be happy in what we have".
3. 100% every wife whose husband got relocated will be asked to relocate irrespective of her career or her interests. There can one stupid reason and 2. Very very selfish reasons for relocation the one stupid reason is a wife shouldn't be away from her husband!!!! Ohh Is it. I didn't know this and if it is so then why is he leaving????  Well the other 2 very very selfish reasons are 1. Who will cook for the husband????? 2. If we stay separate then it will be double the cost!!!! So you can call yourselves a cook or a way to save money and take care of a family.
4. 1%... naah... 0.1% that’s what is the number I can see. I still don't understand how come it doesn't strike to any boy on this earth that a girl's parents also age, they haven’t come from heaven to stay young all their life and see what s*** is happening in her daughter's life!!!! Every guy wants his wife to take care of his parents like she would take care of her own. But what about her own parents?? 

 
If you are really really lucky then you will get someone who will have these answers for the above questions

Another set of Answers:

1. If you have done something really good in your previous life you will get a husband who will say, "I'll make some tea and cut vegetables for you to cook, till then sit down and chat with me". You don't need a guy saying "I love you" all the time. Love automatically shows up even if you don't say it verbally. 
2. If you are a really sweet husband all through this time, all you have to say is "Yes, I'll relocate for you, but I'll have to look for a new job. Give me time till I get one". Don't forget to put "For you" because that will automatically increase respect for you and bring uneasiness in her for asking so much. Girl's are emotional fools, even the smallest troubles faced by their loved ones will look super magnified to their eyes. Explain them sweetly if its genuinely not possible to relocate and if it is a good option to relocate then no fight at all, simply relocate.
3. There is no easy solution of this one. If its a short term travel and if the girl is not interested in relocating then don't force her. If you respect her feeling she will respect you more, probably you will face troubles for that short period but when you relocate back, she will love you even more. If its a long term, then it should have been discussed and made clear long back i.e. even before getting married. 
4. Indian culture has always given an upper hand to parents who have a son while parents with daughters are always to be within limits. Girl's parents treat Son-in-laws like God and fear society thus would never depend on daughters how much ever poor they are. All that a son-in-law has to do is a little chat now and then, a little respect and a little care and concern to his in-laws. Guy should think of his in-laws like his parents and listen to what they say. No parent would trouble their daughter by giving incorrect advise to their son-in-law. They live to see their daughter happy and all you have to do is show them their daughter and let them know that she is happy. 

Bitter Fact : Its true for both boy and a girl. A mother will always be a mother and so will be a father and its absolutely impossible for in-laws to take place of mother and father in a boy or girl's life. We can give them as much respect as we give our parents, we can take care of them as much as we take care of our parents, but we would never get the same emotional attachment which we get with our parents. This makes very little difference in a guy's life, but a girl's life turns upside down because of this.